I am always edified by the deferential treatment of so many good men towards their wives here in NY and during my time in DC, in so many details.
- Holding the door or elevator, insisting that they go first, taking off and putting on their coats…
- Offering the seat with the best view in the restaurant, and holding their chair back before they sit down, standing up when their wife excuses herself from the table.
- Patiently and lovinglylistening to their wife’s perspective in a conversation without cutting them off.
- Offering to cook dinner, and standing up during the meal to pick up the plates and bring out the dessert.
- Making a real effort to arrive home on time so as to have dinner as a family.
- Publicly expressing gratitude to their wife for a great meal and a clean house, and for all the time and attention that she spends helping the kids.
- Privately praising their wife with their co-workers (and priests).
- For those who have stay at home moms, perhaps to say “There isn’t anything more valuable and more important that you do, than to raise our kids”
- Always having his wife’s back with both kids and friend alike.